Revealed Insecurities Cannot Hurt You

          Abby Miller said in her video Guided Self Hypnosis something profound. Going down into your basement in your mind, you will find a glass box that has your insecurities and dark places in it, and you are aware of it, so it cannot harm you because the box is see-through. I think this is so true, when one is aware of their problems and it is not hidden, they can not get affected by them when they are brought up. This is something that may take a lifetime to find, but every time you work on seeing your trauma and what it caused you to feel about yourself, it opens you up more for acceptance of yourself.

          It is in the hidden things that we feel the most threatened by. When you can not admit your insecurities, you need to hide them down, and use up more energy in doing so. This is also to your detriment because when others are affected by you and affect you, it hurts you more because you cannot see why this is so.

          For example, my sister, no matter how many times I get upset and hurt by her and try to get her to see why, she insists it is all my problem and I am terribly selfish and needy. She cannot meet my need, and I accept that but it hurts. Until she acknowledges my hurt feelings, she will not be able to see me and have a close relationship with me because my feelings are part of me. I am working on accepting that it is her issue and not my guilt. All I have to do is admit I am hurt to her, and I am sorry for trying to change her, and accept that she is not very compassionate inside for some reason of her own that prevents her from acknowledging my pain. Anne, my baby's therapist coach, says that some people cannot accept your truth because they are stuck in a program of belief that is threatened by your truth. Oh gosh this is so difficult to understand.

         But anyway, the more you acknowledge the faults, the more you are free to accept them and clear them away from your focus. :)