Stopping the Projection in it's Path

            I got triggered when my husband said that he answered someone who he barely knew when he asked him how my father is doing since the divorce. I feel that why did he volunteer so much information to a stranger? I asked if he felt stupid after, and he admitted yes. I got triggered because I also have weak boundaries with strangers and tell them too much sometimes. So I became furious and yelled at him that he said too much and he was weak. It struck me that I was projecting, and I felt like hell. I knew it was wrong to blame him for my own problem, to take it out on him, because it was soo satisfying to make him feel low. But it was wrong. There it was, in front of me that I was projecting. So I shut up, and battled my demons in my head, roaring angrily inside. He noticed, and did not blame me or mix into my fight. Even though it seemed he had a right to be defensive.

        I am proud of him. And myself.

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