Innate Knowledge that You are Loved

Children have an innate knowing they love their mother from when in the womb. If that is disrupted when they see their mother hurt them for no reason, that questions their whole life. They wonder if they are worthy of love, and feel like an ugly person because the very person they love hurts them.

         This is why it is so important to listen and love a child, because they take in the feelings as reality.

              In addition, I have a hard time seeing that my daughter loves me when she is upset, because I feel that I was not treating her right. But the important thing is that she always loves me, even when I hurt her, and knowing this can make it easier to apologize and trust that she'll want to accept me again. Even though she always wanted me in the first place.

            This is like G-d, he always wants us back when we are ready to apologize. He has innate love for us because He is part of us.

              If they keep being treated wrongly they will grow to hate themselves and feel they can only be loved if it's absolutely proven to them from the outside. They no longer have an innate knowing about their lovableness.

              I see this with myself and my husband, sometimes if he does not acknowledge what I said when I was sad I go crazy on him because I feel he does not love me. I don't have that innate knowledge that I'm loved by him no matter what he says or does not say. I have to keep reminding myself that he does deep down, and even though he did not respond lovingly when I am in pain. It may mean that he is in pain about something of his own and forgot about me momentarily. But he still loves me deep down. We all love one another, we are all connected through being human, and we only do not realize this when we do not have the innate feeling of self love through the love our mother should have given us.