Trying To Get Validation

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          I guess I saw with my old friend that I don't always know good boundaries, and I should have seen that I felt awkward inside enough to stop "preaching" about my new lifestyle. She didn't get it, and I kept trying to explain. It was the same way it goes with my mother, with me running around trying to get her to accept me or validate my feelings, and she never does because she can't see that way of living, thinking of emotions, so it was all for naught. A waste of time.

           Like Ralph Smart says in his video about 10 ways to know you are having a spiritual awakening, is if you feel different and are on a different level than everyone, and are trying to get them to see what you do. Even though they do not listen. He says we have to be a lighthouse and not try to save everyone when they are not ready. They will see it works for us and then be interested. I am having a hard time, because I always felt different and looked for validation. It is time to realize that I won't get it from them, and need to find people my speed.

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