Truth Is Most Important in Life

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Richard Grannon blew my mind in his video Lies Bind, True sets Free. He said narcissist types only like you for their script that you can fulfill, they live a life binded to satan meaning lies. Once you know the truth of what love is, you can go towards that. I am working on doing that and only accepting love from others in my life.

He also says that the closer two people are, the more they see one another's "monsters," as he calls the shadow side because it is truly awful when people show that side and do not see the other person's feelings. He says a good relationship depends on if they can accept that side of each other, and not be destroyed by it. I really like this because it is true that the more you accept your "monsters," the less you hurt others through it because you can be truthful and working on it. I have seen how hurtful it is when people pretend that they are perfect because cannot admit their "selfishness" and "monsters in closet." When you can be truthful and listen to others pointing out how you hurt them and improve, you can live with truth.

Kris Godinez of We Need to Talk channel said in Dual Diagnosis that in recovery you can't still be with your addictions because then she doesn't know what is talking the true you or your addictions. You need support and to know that you can trust the other person to be there anytime you feel like "hitting up." I so need this more. Every day I feel falling into my addictions the pain always creeps up. Whenever I ignore my daughter for my needs I get triggered. She says the way you know if someone is true is if they apologize to their family and friends for throwing them under the bus for their addictions or person they were addicted to, and are meticulous in their actions from then on. I need to work on that, too. Some people I cut out truly were cruel and non apologizing to me so I am staying away from them such as my adoptive sister and mother to some degree. And my biological siblings. I hurt my husband a lot because I do not feel real, but I know deep down he knows I care and we need to work on our insecurities. Grow together. I hope my daughter can forgive me one day for ignoring her so.

I am happy to be living a life based mostly on truth. That I recognize when I am not being true to myself. It is painful though. But it makes me happier in general, because I know the truth.

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