The Outside needs to Reflect the Inside, In Healing Emotional Pain

        When people go through sadness and tragedy, they need to mourn. The outer world needs to match with their inner one to heal. Or else a feeling of falseness comes up, and they are in doubt of themselves. They can begin to question their inside, and question their sanity if it goes on long enough. 

        Until they just numb out. Their inside. Their pain. Their SELF. 

        Yup, you know what I'm thinking. An adoptee who does not get to show her pain. After she is thrown into the dungeon. Of losing her mother. Of being taken to live with strange people. Strangers. She never gets the outside to let her inside be seen. Cognitive dissonance happens. Dissociation from her Self ensues. Self annihilation. Numbing out. Shooting up with addiction later to feel alive. 

         Or just codependency. That's the safest way to stay safe in the terror of losing everything. All over again. So the false self persists. Until their Inner Selves attract so much disaster and rejection in the outside world because it is trying to SHOW up, that they are forced to face it. 

       As Melanie Tonia Evans, Life Coach for Codependency Healing, says, your inner world is shouting to be HEALED and seen, so the pain comes up stronger and stronger.

          So, please let emotions be heard so we can move forward and not lose our sense of who we truly are inside. Show what is inside outside. Get those TEARS OUT!! They are true and beautiful. 

          Release the trauma from our bodies, like Aletha Solter of Tears and Tantrums talks about when she says babies need to cry to heal themselves. 

          Love, 

          An Adoptee Soul