Having Personal Boundaries is Spiritual!!

             I am pleased that Pia Mellody says in her video about called Developing  Personal Boundaries that when we have boundaries we are actually being spiritual, and G-d exists in you when you are being this way. As well, between two people when they have personal boundaries in place, and are seeing into each other intellectually understanding one another, G-d is between them. This is what it means that G-d is between two people who are loving towards one another. I love this, and it explains whey I feel happiest when my husband and I are in harmony and not putting up walls that don't allow us to understand one another. This happens when our egos are threatened, and triggered. Also an example of boundaries is not being able to say no when someone violates your sexual boundary and it's not being spiritual. Or when a person violates other's sexual boundary without their consent, and this can mean through thoughts too. Another example of being spiritual would be to notice what someone feels and see what they need.

            She said that when you say something that a person resonates with they can have happy emotions, but when they disagree a boundary would be not to let it affect them and just realize that everyone is entitled to their own opinion. THIS in key.

          She said that when we feel Joy and Sadness it can show that we are in a spiritual state, and connected to G-d. Many people have these feelings without realizing that. It can come about through doing things we love and feeling good about ourselves. Such as dancing, singing, and using other talents Meditating, Prayer, having boundaries with self and others and a few other things are spiritual practices, and while doing them one is connecting with G-d. This makes me so happy, because I feel I have more of a right to be happy and do things to make sure I am in a good state to achieve spiritual states.