Codependent World
People are enmeshed and think they are responsible for other people's pain, so when they see another suffering they either go in denial if they can't handle it, or fully let it engulf them with guilt. This is what I realized today when I was talking to my brother and he was telling me about a painful moment, and I couldn't hear his pain so I tried to reason why he should not be upset. He got mad that I wasn't listening and justifying his feelings, rightfully so, and kept screaming louder about it. I finally said I had to go.
I felt torn apart inside and broken from how is pain and so tried to "fix it" by telling him how he SHOULD have acted. I and initially blamed him for not listening, and thought he was being mean to me. But then I separated myself and saw how HE was feeling, and I listened as much as I could. When it started annoying me too much I said I had to go and he promptly hung up on me and then texted me how I was being just as rude to him as the other person that he was blaming was. I stood my ground and asked my inner higher self for wisdom, and then I texted him back that I just had a headache and was sorry. I took responsibility for my inability to listen. It felt liberating and calming inside.
Therefore, I realized that people who are unaware cannot hear other's pain because it hurts their egos too much and so they try to shut it down. If everyone would listen to their OWN feelings first, they'd be able to hear others objectively and not take it personally. We need to separate ourselves in order to come together. :)
First, it IS all about YOU. SO time to be selfish, world!
I felt torn apart inside and broken from how is pain and so tried to "fix it" by telling him how he SHOULD have acted. I and initially blamed him for not listening, and thought he was being mean to me. But then I separated myself and saw how HE was feeling, and I listened as much as I could. When it started annoying me too much I said I had to go and he promptly hung up on me and then texted me how I was being just as rude to him as the other person that he was blaming was. I stood my ground and asked my inner higher self for wisdom, and then I texted him back that I just had a headache and was sorry. I took responsibility for my inability to listen. It felt liberating and calming inside.
Therefore, I realized that people who are unaware cannot hear other's pain because it hurts their egos too much and so they try to shut it down. If everyone would listen to their OWN feelings first, they'd be able to hear others objectively and not take it personally. We need to separate ourselves in order to come together. :)
First, it IS all about YOU. SO time to be selfish, world!
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