Adoptee Life Is Greatness
I feel like adoption is one of a big pain that a person can go through in this life, because yeah abuse from your biological parents hurts, feeling unloved by them... But to feel abandoned by your biological parents, and then unloved and emotionally abused and manipulated by your adoptive parents... That's a life that can cause a person to feel unworthy to the utmost degree. We chose it here for our souls though, because all the suffering we go through and still remain intact gives us a great reward for eternity. So all the pain, we were born with it etching in our skin, we drag our feet through it because it serves us greatly for our soul's correction. Pain causes humbling, and when we face our fears- the abandonment we feel will happen to us if we let our guards down- we can become so strong and make G-d proud. It is all a question of if we want to, instead of falling victim to our insatiable hunger for quick fixes.
But it does require a lot of work. my brother has a hard time with it because he does not want to think about the past. It may be too painful to admit. Betty Jean Lifton says, though, that when an adoptee finds their birth family, they let go of feeling "alone" and "not connected to anyone biologically related," which causes them to feel "magical," and they can get to the acceptance of being human. They can accept their mortality, and that they have a responsibility, a place, for being here. I am at that stage, thank G-d, so I no longer feel magical and too different to fit in. I fit in just like the rest of humanity, we all have our own idiosyncrasies. I wish all adoptees can feel the same. It would save them a lot of confusion about who they are, and constant need to "prove" themselves to their adoptive parents, who later symbolize the world, that they have a chance at being human. Flawed like the rest of us. My brother and sister just live in their head because they are scared of going against their beliefs they grew up with, society expectations. Like they need to prove to themselves that they are bad, and crazy for the jumbled feeling, not being able to get validated for themselves, like they felt as children. It must be hard.
But it does require a lot of work. my brother has a hard time with it because he does not want to think about the past. It may be too painful to admit. Betty Jean Lifton says, though, that when an adoptee finds their birth family, they let go of feeling "alone" and "not connected to anyone biologically related," which causes them to feel "magical," and they can get to the acceptance of being human. They can accept their mortality, and that they have a responsibility, a place, for being here. I am at that stage, thank G-d, so I no longer feel magical and too different to fit in. I fit in just like the rest of humanity, we all have our own idiosyncrasies. I wish all adoptees can feel the same. It would save them a lot of confusion about who they are, and constant need to "prove" themselves to their adoptive parents, who later symbolize the world, that they have a chance at being human. Flawed like the rest of us. My brother and sister just live in their head because they are scared of going against their beliefs they grew up with, society expectations. Like they need to prove to themselves that they are bad, and crazy for the jumbled feeling, not being able to get validated for themselves, like they felt as children. It must be hard.
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