Aware Parenting And Letting Child Lead

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         My daughter knows what she wants, and she should be the teacher in showing me who she is. When I force her to say or do things, she hates it and it in fact stifles her. I love to watch her and learn from her what she needs. I see her being calm and happy and it makes me happy. No parent should try to force a child how to be. The good mothers are those who accept the child as is.

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