Finding Our Humanity that was Taken from us and Giving Way To True Self and Love of Self

      Since we were stripped of our humanity from the shame our parents put on us as children, we lost the ability to have self-love and our truth. Pia Melody says in The Intimacy Factor. When we let ourselves have boundaries and face our shame, we uncover the truth about ourselves again, and can experience our Truth and Love. In turn, we experience Godly truth and Godly love. I love this, because it says that people are able to see God's truth when they find their truth, and that these are connected. And when they begin to have self love, they can feel God's love as well. We are all worthy, were born being worthy. It was only our loss of humanness that makes us feel toxic shame and less-than others. Babies are innocent and love whomever loves them. They just need their caregivers to love them, that is it.

       I can picture it, a little toddler just wanting to please her mother to make her happy. Her mother is her world, there is a desperate need for her affection and adoration. This is what adoptees lose when they feel cut off from their first mother, and as Betty Jean Lifton says, cumulative losses later on when they learn that their mother left them and feel rejected... Therefore they still seek the acceptance and are hungry for it all their lives, unless they can come to terms with it. Thereby there will be no need to give themselves over to their deep depression and lack of self worth. There is a way to resolve it, and that is by facing it and becoming resilient.