Child-Rearing and Discipline

We need to get on our children's level and see how they think in order to have a relationship with them. Grown ups, adults, are supposed to be more rational and know how to temper their irrational feelings and mold them to fit the logic. The truth of what is right. If they are not developed enough to do so, often because of insufficient upbringing themselves, they will not know how to teach their child how to do this, too. Slowly showing him the right way to act, through loving discipline. That is NOT shaming and hurtful, causing the child to detach from them and live in fear like a robot, just to survive.

THAT is the cause of ALL adult dysfunction. Not being raised with care and understanding, limits.

It hit me today. It makes sense. The more I shame my daughter, the more she disassociates. This needs to be common knowledge. Off to take care of her needs.

One more thing- Jerry Wise says that you cannot have empathy if you are not self-differentiated. Stop trying to care, until you feel like a person yourself. Love.

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