My Child Stressing Me Out But She's Amazing

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It's amazing to me how my daughter looks up to me so much and copies everything I do. And she also so wants to do everything by herself. It is shocking to me I guess to see how innocent little kids are. She hears every word or thing said, like when the lecture was on in another room as we ate, she repeated a word she heard from it- mean. It startled me.

She gets soo upset when I take away the pen from her because she is scribbling on my notebook and I don't want her to. It is so hard to discipline and I have to be so careful not to hurt her. I was feeling overwhelmed, so we went out for a walk and she stayed in the carriage the whole time. She seemed spaced out and I felt awful. It was for an hour because I went grocery shopping, and I was happy to buy her some treats and only then did she munch and talk a bit. I don't know how she felt but it seemed she was okay with it. At home she was very attached to me.

She is soo attached to me I can barely move somewhere else without her crying and running to me. I think I instigate this by being overly cheery sometimes because I am stressed at how needy she is. Sigh if only I had more friends to feel valid.

I like taking videos with her because then I feel seen and connected to her seeing our expressions and having fun. It is hard to live for myself at times with her though. Just venting.

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