Stereotypes Creating Our Feelings about Others

My husband didn't want to go to the vacation hotel I found, when we wanted to go somewhere closer instead of traveling back after we sign our lease for our new home this Friday. He was adamantly against it when it came to being with strangers because they were "cliquey" and talked smack about newcomers.

I was angry at his childish attitude and ruining my sunshine. But than it hit me that he was reacting out of being triggered- from bullying in his past. And his parents' paranoia about others. Whenever we react strongly, it is usually about our past. He is terrified of being out of place. It was a shock to me because I would not react so strongly. As I am used to others seeing me as different or out of place. I realize that he needs to belong so badly it will infringe on his own personal vacation- time to himself.

I was thinking. How stereotypes we create in our beliefs about others from the past affect us so badly. Like, I subconsciously feel bad about men who dress or act a certain way because I feel that they are pig-headed. And I realized today where it comes from- as a girl, feeling looked down on and disrespected by men. Who thought I was nothing but a "crybaby" or too emotional to mean much. Sigh. We all have these notions and it is time to break them. To see who people really are. That is why there is so much hate of others- racism and stereotyping... All because of our own faulty or unfair perceptions.

Of course, there is such a thing as being cautious with strangers, who look dangerous or are acting creepy. You get vibes off people that sometimes need to be trusted. But generally, people are not always as evil we make them out in our heads. Talking to myself. Lol

And I realized, everything people do makes a difference. Such as, when I interact with positivity towards someone and they reciprocate, I form a better view of the world. Or people that are like them. It all goes around...

People who are fearful create tenseness and distrust, and people who are open and happy get others to feel that way too. If we believe our children are intrinsically good, and when they complain it is because they need something, not because they are trying to make us miserable, we can trust our love for them and give them what they need. And create boundaries for when we can't.