Extremes/ Stereotypes Are Harmful
It's not good to see yourself in any extreme stereotype. Such as thinking you have to be perfect, because then if you do something wrong then you do not know how to handle it and your whole sense of worth goes down. Or if you see yourself as a rebel you will never be able to let yourself be another way. Extremes come from shame in childhood, as John Bradshaw says, and when your parent caused you to have to fit into a role in order to fit into the family system. He says that when a mother disowns her sexuality, making it "wrong" to have, her child may subconsciously have to act it out because she feels shame in it and feels guilty all because of her mother for having those feelings. Pia Melody says in The Intimacy Factor that she sees the whole goal of relationships as to come to the middle of one's extreme self beliefs and be able to balance it out. She says there is a inner listening ability, and that when ...